Why We Push People Away When We’re Struggling Mentally
Learn why we push people away during anxiety, depression, or emotional stress. Get mental health insights and relationship advice from a mental health therapist and a psychologist
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Khushboo- psychologist
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Ever find yourself withdrawing from people just when you need them most? You’re not alone. One of the lesser-talked-about signs of mental health struggles—especially anxiety, depression, and emotional overwhelm—is pushing away the very people we love.
When you're emotionally flooded, your brain may go into self-protective mode. You might feel ashamed, unworthy, or afraid of being a burden. Instead of leaning on someone, you might isolate or become irritable, hoping to avoid judgment or disappointment.
The mental health profession sees this as a coping strategy. Your mind is trying to gain control by minimizing vulnerability—even if it comes at the cost of connection.
But distancing can backfire. It can leave you feeling more alone, misunderstood, and trapped in your emotions. That’s why it’s so important to recognize when it’s happening.
How to break the cycle:
Name what you're feeling. Just acknowledging “I’m insecure” can help. If labelling feelings is difficult then use Junto Emotional Wheel.
Communicate even if it makes you vulnerable. A simple text like “I’m not okay, I need XYZ” keeps the door open for understanding.
Practice self-compassion. You are not a bad person if you need space or support.
Work with a therapist. A trained mental health professional can help you build healthier emotional patterns and teach you emotional regulation techniques.
You're allowed to struggle and still be loved. You don’t have to push people away to protect them—or yourself.
